Protection

I don't usually make a big deal about what is on my Fetlife profile but sometimes I get a message from someone that just makes me want to rant... and I got one recently and it has been simmering at the back of my mind....

IdiotDom (as he shall be known) sent me a message out of the blue to tell me that there was no way that I could possibly be in a position to have Myou under my protection... WTF!!!  We had never had any previous correspondence, he lives on another continent and his profile is one of those lovely ones with no info, no pics... basically a troll who likes to poke people to get a reaction.  So I replied telling him to shove it and then blocked him and deleted the mail as I do for all randoms....

But it has made me think about what it all means to me.  You see it pop up in the feed that person x is under the protection of person y or vice versa but no-one ever questions what this means.  I think for me with Myou it is not something I am always conscious that I am doing, I have known him for nearly 16 years now and he has always needed looking after and protection as he is such a submissive that sometimes he doesn't know when to stand up for himself and sometimes is slightly afraid to as he worries about what people will think of him.

But I like to think that he knows that regardless of the situation that all he needs to do is come to me and I will be there for him.  Be it physically putting myself into the situation to stop something happening, to shield him from something/someone, to negotitate something, as a comforting hand to hold or as has happened more recently as a keyholder in case he does something stupid and loses his master keys to the collar and cuffs.  Or be it mentally, knowing that whatever happens I will not judge him, take the mick and laugh my ass off at him, sometimes yes, but never judge.

So back to 'IdiotDom', how the hell could he presume to know if I can or cannot protect my friend.  It was something we decided between us and we both understand what it means to us and I will admit that sometimes it can be hard, knowing when to step in or when to make a decision he asks for or when to force him to make it himself, but we muddle along.  He is mine to protect, poke, tease and look after, I can share and will be over the moon when he finds his special person(s) but until then I am the only one allowed to be mean to him without his permission, because he knows that I will never intentionally hurt him, embarrass yes, hurt no. 

I also like to think that the people I have made friends with in scene know that they are welcome to come to me also, yes I am shy and not particularly social but I will always offer my arm to my friends that need it.  I guess it is something that I was taught at a young age by hanging around too many forces guys, I was always told that if someone/something was bothering me that I was to find someone I trusted and tap them on the arm and ask for their arm, and then slide my arm through theirs.  It was a universal but unwritten code for 'help me/protect me' and even if it was not obvious what was wrong I knew that whoever had offered their arm would be there for me. 

Okay rant mostly over.... for now...