Life of Fet

This time 3 years ago I first discovered that I was not the only person who had deep, dark, disturbed thoughts about submission, pain and domination.  I had been talking to a friend who I knew was sort of into the same things as me and he mentioned Fetlife to me and encouraged me to sign up and explore.

So when I got home I signed up and added him to my friends, spent hours trying to write the intro message and then started exploring by typing in my home city.... and boy there were a lot of results... were there really that many kinky people in my area.  So I clicked on a few likely suspects and then after reading various profiles I started looking at the forums and oh boy, I was soooo not alone...

Little did I know that this first small step would be the start of a weird and wonderful adventure that would take me to places I had only imagined and to meet people who would teach/show/allow me to experience things I had only imagined.

Looking back I wish that there were things I could tell 28 year old me about the journey, I wouldn't listen to myself but I wish I could...

I also wish I could warn her that in a few weeks her world is going to be turned on it's head and she is going to lose one of the most important people in her life, and 6 weeks after that is going to finally pluck up the courage to kick her worthless boyfriend out the house.  But with the support of your new poly family, friends and a bucket load of drugs from the docs, combined with counselling you will make it through.

Over the next 3 years you will lose weight, put it back on, sort out the sinusitus only to have it come back, you will change job... 3 times..... you will get a new boyfriend, you already know him.  You will try things that if I told you what they are now, you would run screaming into the hills and call me a loony... but you will do it, and you will enjoy the ride...